Do you know the real God? Part IV

Creative And what does it mean that God is creative? Quite often God’s creativity is pushed to the side. We know God is creative because he’s the creator. Of what? Of the heavens and the earth (Genesis 1:1). To most Christians, it’s not all that mind-blowing. God made the natural world – the rocks and trees, all the animals, and … Read more

Reflections on Tokyo Ghoul

A number of years ago, I was really into an anime called Tokyo Ghoul. It was one of those things that just spoke so deeply to what I was going through; the internal battles, the secrecy, the shame and anguish… All these powerful themes come out so strongly. The show is almost a perfect metaphor for someone struggling with pedophilia. … Read more

Do you know the real God? Part III

Justice What about justice? We hear the word justice being thrown around a lot. Everyone’s trying to get justice but when was the last time anyone anywhere ever said anything about God’s justice? People certainly love to pin God’s name on their version of justice, whether it be the social justice of today or the “Gott mit uns” justice of … Read more

Do you know the real God? Part II

Holiness What about holiness? How often do you hear it said in bible study when the leader asks: ‘What is holiness?’ someone always puts their hand up and says ‘Oh I know, I know. It means to be set apart.’ But what never seems to get explained is just how set apart God really is – how alien and uncanny … Read more

Do you know the real God? Part I

I was recently struck by something Paul Washer said in a sermon. He was sitting in a seminary class. The teacher had just walked in and was asking people if any of them could name the attributes of God. Hands shot up all across the room. “Good” said one student, “Holy” said another. Answers came shooting in all across the … Read more

Can a real Christian even be a Pedophile?

One of the hardest things about my journey with God was coming to terms with my under-age attraction. I remember feeling so awful and disgusting. It felt like my whole body was full of black mud. Up until this point, I thought I was a pretty decent person. I went to church, I played in the band and I went … Read more

The Mind of Man – The Mind of Christ

I would firstly like to acknowledge the writings of Puritan author Thomas Goodwin. Much of what I’ve attempted to do in this article is to create a good summary in my own words and expand on the various aspects I think would be useful. The mind of Christ is a subject worthy of our utmost attention if we desire to … Read more

Is Under-Age Attraction a Sickness or a Sin?

  Is it a sin to be attracted to kids or is it just a neurological condition? Is this purely physical due to the bad neurological wiring in our brains or is there a moral component? From our perspective, it’s certainly a lot easier to claim sickness over sin. After all, if we say it’s a kind of evil – … Read more

Is Change Possible? – A Closer Look at Regeneration

The idea that sexuality can change is controversial to say the least. There’s a lot of voices out there that we’re all familiar with ranging all the way from the horror stories of gay conversion therapy to the boneless side A “Christianity”. To make things even more difficult most christian ministers aren’t well enough equipped to give good, solid, biblical … Read more

The Love of God

The Love of God is a phrase that gets thrown around often. But for those of us who have grown up in an abusive environment, the word ‘love’ may mean something very different to those who didn’t. In order to better understand the love of God, we need to be specific about what it looks like in a practical sense, … Read more

Appetite

I was over at a friend’s the other day. He’s a real gamer, and we like to talk as if we are tasteful critics. Well, each of us has in fact devoted enough hours of study in the field of video games to be doctorate level. But, that day he was showing me a game that was drawn anime style, … Read more

Facing it Like a Boss

I recently came across a blog post by a Gal who really inspired me. She is facing Bipolar Disorder, and learning to fly above the waves. Certainly, the pitfalls and strategies for Bipolar are much different than for Pedophilia. But perspective and attitude count for a whole lot. Kelsey shares some practical advice about self care, but weaved throughout is … Read more

The Hope Set Before Us

Pedophilia is a daily struggle. There are always feelings that go in the wrong direction, and you’re faced with the choice of where to let your mind go. The decision to honor God with your sexuality is a daily victory. Daily victories are good, because together, they equal a lifetime of victory. However, it’s easy to get weary in the … Read more

A Letter From a Survivor

This letter was originally posted in our Discussion area. Thank you K. K – I am a survivor of child molestation. I cannot explain how angry I am that children are exposed to sexual abuse, at the fact that there are children in pornography and prostitution – that there is even a market for it. At the back of my … Read more

When a Kid Comes on to You

The following is a selection from the article A Pedophile’s Darkest Hour – Pitfalls & Strategies. This might be the single most difficult trial a pedophile can face. Yes, it can happen – a kid might want to be sexual with you. Sometimes, a child has gone through experiences that have made them “sexually reactive”. What that means is that … Read more

He Fell For a Boy

I was recently talking with a friend of mine, who is also a pedophile. We were discussing how awful it is to fall in love with a child, only to recognize that it can’t lead anywhere good. That happened to him as a counselor at summer camp. He fell for a boy. Nothing inappropriate transpired. No one would have known … Read more

Our Reason: Sexuality “Holy” to God

Sexuality has always been a defining issue in society. Just think about the difference between the swimsuit edition of Sports Illustrated and the Hijab worn by Muslim women. Human cultures have handled sexuality in so many different ways. Even in modern times, the variance is shocking. It has been reported that the Irish society living on Inis Beag is one … Read more

What Does God Think About Me?

Be still and quiet for a moment, and ask yourself, “What does God think about me?” Maybe your stomach gets knotted up. You imagine that God must surely disapprove of you, and has all sorts of judgments against you. It’s discouraging. You already dislike yourself, and so it’s better not to think about God. I know the feeling. Have you … Read more

Two Ways to Grieve, One Way to Freedom

What do you do when you do something bad? How do you feel? Most people experience a deep sense of grief, a loss of failed expectation, self-disappointment, and with it a certain lowering of self-worth. It only follows then that those who do bad things have less value than people who don’t. This is one form of grief. However in … Read more

Piggyback Rides with Jesus on My High Places

The other day I was talking with a friend who struggles with a gambling addiction. He said, “I’m doing ok now, but I can’t promise that I won’t ever gamble again. I’d just be lying to myself.” That really got me thinking. Can we ever really be free of our struggles? At our best, are we just putting off our … Read more

Boundaries: Stay Out, Stay Alive

“A prudent person foresees danger and takes precautions. The simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences.” – Prov. 22:3 NLT There is a hydroelectric dam down by the river where I live, and it’s so interesting to walk the footpath along the riverbank. On the low side of the dam, the water cascades in plumes of white foam into … Read more

Afflictions of the Righteous

Psalm 34:19 – “Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all.” This verse gives us such comfort and promise, and is full of meaning. It seems that every Christian pedophile I’ve talked to believes that God is mad at them simply because they are attracted to minors. Not true! Remember what Psalm 22:24 … Read more

Evil Present with Me

There are many times I’ve been discouraged in my day to day journey. Just when I’m excited with how far I’ve come or how well I’m doing, suddenly I’m brought to my knees. It’s funny how this can happen after feeling spiritually strong. Maybe I was reading the Bible and felt so close to God, and then an hour later … Read more

Will I Always Be the Same? (When Temptation Strikes)

A good friend of mine asked a great question: “I know I shouldn’t lust after them, but is there a way I can stop wanting to lust after them?” I totally get that! You know, sometimes I find myself getting discouraged when faced with temptation again and again. Shouldn’t I be over this by now? But, I still get those … Read more

God’s Love for a Pedophile

“I would have despaired unless I had believed that I would see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living.” (Ps. 27:13) I’m a Pedophile. How can I figure a way through this? Researchers say the wires are crossed in my brain. The social worker wants me to focus on goals and avoid problematic behavior. Society simply … Read more

New Picture for a Pedophile

I said, “My life is in a hundred pieces,” A puzzle broken apart by shame and anxiety; I meant to work the picture to perfection, But this bent attraction – more than anything, Has left all a jumble, and I can find no remedy. In the darkest places God whispers, “You’re in my hands; I’ve caught all the pieces; Dear … Read more

God Loves Pedophiles – Top Two Questions

The question I get asked most is, “Is God mad at me, because I’m a pedophile.” My answer is always no, no, NO! Being attracted to minors is a physiological condition, just like any other. It’s a life-challenge that a few people face, but everyone faces challenges in life. God isn’t mad at anyone because they struggle. Instead, he says, … Read more

Is God Still God if People are “Born” with Atypical Sexual Attraction?

Pedophiles are people who have a sexual attraction to minors. Can this be changed through treatment or therapy? It’s becoming more accepted that a person’s sexual attraction is a result of their brain’s wiring, and is influenced by their life experiences. It seems evident that a person doesn’t choose their sexual make-up; they simply experience it and decide how they’ll … Read more

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