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This letter was originally posted in our Discussion area. Thank you K. K – I am a survivor of child molestation. I cannot explain how angry I am that children are exposed to sexual abuse, at the fact that there are children in pornography and prostitution – that there is even a market for it. At the back of my … Read more

The following is a selection from the article A Pedophile’s Darkest Hour – Pitfalls & Strategies. This might be the single most difficult trial a pedophile can face. Yes, it can happen – a kid might want to be sexual with you. Sometimes, a child has gone through experiences that have made them “sexually reactive”. What that means is that … Read more

I was struck by this thought – When it comes time for me to die, I will have no choice but to depend on God completely. So, shouldn’t I depend on him for everything else, even sexuality? It can be hard to trust, but I’m not sure we have a choice! None of us can do anything to change the … Read more

I was recently talking with a friend of mine, who is also a pedophile. We were discussing how awful it is to fall in love with a child, only to recognize that it can’t lead anywhere good. That happened to him as a counselor at summer camp. He fell for a boy. Nothing inappropriate transpired. No one would have known … Read more

Sexuality has always been a defining issue in society. Just think about the difference between the swimsuit edition of Sports Illustrated and the Hijab worn by Muslim women. Human cultures have handled sexuality in so many different ways. Even in modern times, the variance is shocking. It has been reported that the Irish society living on Inis Beag is one … Read more

Be still and quiet for a moment, and ask yourself, “What does God think about me?” Maybe your stomach gets knotted up. You imagine that God must surely disapprove of you, and has all sorts of judgments against you. It’s discouraging. You already dislike yourself, and so it’s better not to think about God. I know the feeling. Have you … Read more

What do you do when you do something bad? How do you feel? Most people experience a deep sense of grief, a loss of failed expectation, self-disappointment, and with it a certain lowering of self-worth. It only follows then that those who do bad things have less value than people who don’t. This is one form of grief. However in … Read more

The other day I was talking with a friend who struggles with a gambling addiction. He said, “I’m doing ok now, but I can’t promise that I won’t ever gamble again. I’d just be lying to myself.” That really got me thinking. Can we ever really be free of our struggles? At our best, are we just putting off our … Read more

“A prudent person foresees danger and takes precautions. The simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences.” – Prov. 22:3 NLT There is a hydroelectric dam down by the river where I live, and it’s so interesting to walk the footpath along the riverbank. On the low side of the dam, the water cascades in plumes of white foam into … Read more

Psalm 34:19 – “Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all.” This verse gives us such comfort and promise, and is full of meaning. It seems that every Christian pedophile I’ve talked to believes that God is mad at them simply because they are attracted to minors. Not true! Remember what Psalm 22:24 … Read more

There are many times I’ve been discouraged in my day to day journey. Just when I’m excited with how far I’ve come or how well I’m doing, suddenly I’m brought to my knees. It’s funny how this can happen after feeling spiritually strong. Maybe I was reading the Bible and felt so close to God, and then an hour later … Read more

A good friend of mine asked a great question: “I know I shouldn’t lust after them, but is there a way I can stop wanting to lust after them?” I totally get that! You know, sometimes I find myself getting discouraged when faced with temptation again and again. Shouldn’t I be over this by now? But, I still get those … Read more

“I would have despaired unless I had believed that I would see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living.” (Ps. 27:13) I’m a Pedophile. How can I figure a way through this? Researchers say the wires are crossed in my brain. The social worker wants me to focus on goals and avoid problematic behavior. Society simply … Read more

I said, “My life is in a hundred pieces,” A puzzle broken apart by shame and anxiety; I meant to work the picture to perfection, But this bent attraction – more than anything, Has left all a jumble, and I can find no remedy. In the darkest places God whispers, “You’re in my hands; I’ve caught all the pieces; Dear … Read more

The question I get asked most is, “Is God mad at me, because I’m a pedophile.” My answer is always no, no, NO! Being attracted to minors is a physiological condition, just like any other. It’s a life-challenge that a few people face, but everyone faces challenges in life. God isn’t mad at anyone because they struggle. Instead, he says, … Read more

God laments over his people, and compares them to a wayward wife: “For she does not know that it was I who gave her the grain, the new wine and the oil, and lavished on her silver and gold, which they used for Baal.” (Hosea 2:8) The prophet Hosea spoke God’s message to the people. They had abandoned him, and … Read more

Pedophiles are people who have a sexual attraction to minors. Can this be changed through treatment or therapy? It’s becoming more accepted that a person’s sexual attraction is a result of their brain’s wiring, and is influenced by their life experiences. It seems evident that a person doesn’t choose their sexual make-up; they simply experience it and decide how they’ll … Read more

The Bible says we have a hope that is the “anchor of our soul”. (Heb. 6:19) What is that hope? It’s none other than the person of God… his character, passion, and actions. Our hope is in a person! We’re not just following some force of nature, karma, or rules to live by. There’s actually someone there. What is God … Read more

There was a recent article in BBC’s future section about people enduring trauma titled, The Secrets of Extraordinary Survivors. It shares the experiences of a political activist who was tortured by soldiers, and how she is reclaiming life. It also examines how people respond to disastrous events, such as the 1953 earthquake in Greece and the London subway bombing. The … Read more